Children are often used as pawns in divorce proceedings. Try not to fall into this trap yourself. They are not messengers, spys or possessions. Hard as it may be, do not speak badly of the other parent. Assure your children that you love them and want to see them as much as you can.

As a father you may find your spouse trying all sorts of tactics to prevent your visitation. Although frustrating, you need to keep your cool and never take it out on your children.

If your spouse continually disrupts your visitation the best thing to do is record what transpires and deal with the issue through the courts. Getting angry and acting in the heat of the moment can backfire. While divorce proceedings are underway the last thing you need is a charge brought against you. Violent or unruly outbursts will not work in your favour.

Full custody is not often granted to the father. If you wish to battle for full custody it will be expensive and fruitless unless you can prove the mother unfit. Keep in mind that joint custody can be awarded. This does not necessarily mean you have the children 50% of the time but rather gives you continued rights in making decisions and accessing things pertaining to them such as health and school records. 

To allow the other person full custody is basically signing off on any rights you have with the children. You will have access but will forfeit any legal say in important decisions. While this may seem the easy way, especially if you are being pressured to do so, you may come to regret it down the road.

Child Support in Canada is regulated by the Government. There is a table that determines how much you pay in relation to your earnings and the number of children you have. 

This can be paid directly to the recipient or through the Family Responsibility Office. It is in your best interest to pay promptly and not withhold monies as some sort of punishment towards your spouse.